The Root of Unfairness: A Reflection We All Need
Have you ever been fair to
someone, only to be treated unfairly in return? It stings, doesn’t it? You find
yourself wondering, Why are they like this? Over time, you might shake your head and conclude, “That’s
just their nature.” Some of us choose to walk away from such people. Others, for
various reasons, continue the relationship—even when it hurts.
But let’s pause and ask
ourselves a harder question: Aren’t we sometimes unfair to others too?
If you’re honest, you might say, “It depends on how I was treated.” And that’s
the tricky part.
Sometimes, we lose time, money,
or respect because of someone else’s unfairness—despite our own best efforts to
be fair. After experiencing enough of this, many of us unconsciously become
unfair to others. And we justify it with a quiet, bitter thought: The
world is unfair, so why shouldn’t I be?
Now, here’s a perspective shift:
the very people who are unfair to us may be fighting the same internal battle.
Their behavior might also come from a belief they’ve adopted—that the world is
fundamentally unfair, and they’re just responding to it.
Does that excuse unfairness? Not
at all. But it does invite us to pause before we label someone as simply “bad”
or “toxic.” Most people don’t wake up wanting to be unfair. Circumstances shape
them—just as circumstances can shape us.
To be fair or unfair is, in the
end, a choice. And it’s a choice only you can make—for yourself, not based on
what others have done to you, but based on who you want to be.
So, the next time you face
unfairness, don’t just react. Reflect. And then decide: What
kind of person will I be today?
M.L. Narendra
Kumar
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