Less than a Minute Life Lesson-2407 Character and Competency

Insight from an incident

Let’s examine these 2 incidents that happens in our life

1.How do you feel when your children do not switch of the fan & light when they leave the room?

·        Annoyed

·        Feel they are irresponsible

·        Yell at them

·        Submissively  switch it off  

2.How do you feel when your children switch of the fan & light when you are working in a room?

·        Annoyed

·        Feel they are selfish

·        Yell at them

·        Submissively  switch it on

In the first incident we feel they are irresponsible and in the second incident we feel they are selfish. Now let’s examine our behaviour towards them, at one end we expect them to be responsible at other end when they switch it off by a mistake we feel they are selfish.

Sometimes it is we who need to change our Attitude towards them to make them responsible, in the first incident they require a feedback and in the second incident they require an appreciation for their act of being responsible. In such situation don’t expect them to feel sorry for such mistakes, instead if you state few Simple words like

“Honey, I appreciate your sincerity of switching of the lights & fans however I do understand that you didn’t notice me doing my work, it’s ok can you switch it on?”

These assertive statements will reinforce their responsible behaviour and they might also sincerely tell sorry for their act. Next time when you come across the similar situation, you have choice either to feel angry or to give a feedback.

Either to react or to respond is a choice, our choices defines our character & our ability to relate with our child.

M.L.Narendra Kumar