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Don't keep satisfying everyone in life If you keep satisfying everyone in life, you will darken your life to illuminate others life If you keep satisfying everyone in life, you will never understand your potential If you keep satisfying everyone in life, you will never understand what satisfies you If you keep satisfying everyone in life, you will keep missing the fun around you If you keep satisfying everyone in life, you will only keep correcting yourself to others needs If you keep satisfying everyone in life, you will be used more than helped more If you keep satisfying everyone in life, you will be surrounded by brains and not hearts If you keep satisfying everyone in life, others priority will be your priority If you keep satisfying everyone in life, you will never have life for yourself. Don't be good to everyone at the cost of being bad to self M.L.Narendra Kumar

Lesson-447 Steps to future Don’t build a wall from the bricks thrown by the past, instead build steps to see the future Greatness lies in how we work in the present by taking the lessons from the past to build a future  M.L.Narendra Kumar

வாய் தான் வழி ( Mouth is the route) We give our premises for polio drops every month to the local medical centre. A lady comes to our house and we assist her setting up the table.  Today morning I overheard a conversation between that lady and a parent who was on the other side of the phone. The parent was asking for the route to my home and this lady was trying to explain in spite of her busy schedule of giving polio drops to the children who were waiting in the line. At one point of time she made a statement " வாய் தான் வழி (Mouth is the route) and told the parent to ask for the route & reach the place.  The statement made by her was ringing in my mind while I was getting ready for my meeting.  Are we like that parent who has forgotten to ask for assistance on the way to find the address? Are we more dependent on GPS to find places? In those days we used to remember many telephone numbers

You see what you want to see During my childhood days I used to go in cycle rikshaw with my brother, sister and my relatives to the school. Though it was a short distance, since it was a manual rikshaw it took some time to reach the school.   We were in different classes and hence we didn't have a common subject to discuss and above all we were average students who didn't have much of inclination to talk about studies too.  We derived our own ways to make our journey happy, sometimes we used to play rock, paper. & scissors, sometimes we used to spot a car with Registration named MSQ or we used to count the number of Fiat or Ambassador cars on the road. Though the number of vehicles was less, we still used to spot few cars.  We used to play a game of spotting a car brand, the objective was to find out who was able to spot greater number of car brands before reaching our destination. Though it didn't have a logical conclusion, we di

Interaction with Failures Part-12 Mr. Failure: John, how was the interaction with my team? John:   It was an eye opener Mr. Failure: John, take few minutes and reflect upon the insights you had from each one of them and share what will you do in future? John: Ok, I will do it and pulls a notepad from the table After few minutes, he tells I am ready to share: From Mr. Misled ü   I will listen to others but I will be critical ü   I will consult the right person before I decide ü   I will venture into new business after doing my homework From Mr. Cheated ü   I will understand, I will trust and relate with people. ü   I will take control of the situation. From Poor Decision ü   I will use both logical thinking and Emotional thinking in the appropriate situation while taking a decision. ü   I will connect with my purpose and values before I take a decision. From Mr. Habit ü   I will start a new habit that improves my q

Interaction with Failures Part-11 Mr. Anger: your third point was " not delivering results" John: Yes Mr. Anger: Do you think everyone can perform every time? John: No, they cannot Mr. Anger: Have you been delivering results every time John: If I would have done, why do you think I would have taken that extreme step? Mr. Anger: John, if people don't deliver, it doesn't mean they are wrong. We need to understand the root cause for the problem. John: Some people are not bothered about their performance, time and again we need to keep pushing them Mr. Anger: John, let's discuss how do we understand the reason behind low or non-performance through ability and willingness model. John: What is that? Mr. Anger: John, we can classify performance under two parameters 1. Ability- Skills, Knowledge etc. 2. Willingness- Attitude, Motivation etc. John: This sounds like my management class Mr. Anger:   Life and Manageme

Interaction with Failures Part-10 Mr. Anger: can you repeat the second point John? John: others Anger Mr. Anger: What do you mean by that John: When others show their anger, I immediately get angry  Mr. Anger: That’s a natural behaviour but it can be changed John: How can I do that? Mr. Anger: Other people’s choice of words is not in your control; but your words are in your control. If you react you sound angry, if you respond you will sound better John: How to stop reacting and start responding? Mr. Anger: That’s a good question? John: I need an answer Mr. Anger: John, you should be aware of the consequences of anger on your health and how it breaks the relationship. Once you are aware it does not mean you can manage your anger, you should practice it in every situation. John: Though, I am aware, but still I get triggered Mr. Anger:   Remember one thing “You are the owner of your thoughts, your thoughts are manufact

Interaction with Failures Part-9 Mr. Anger: What makes you angry? John: Criticism, others anger and not delivering results  Mr. Anger: Let’s go one by one, have you criticised others John: Yes Mr. Anger: Why did you do that, when you don’t like to be criticised? John: It is because of the mistakes they commit Mr. Anger: Are you supposed to give feedback or are you supposed to criticise John: I am confused whether I gave a feedback or did I criticise Mr. Anger: we might think we are giving feedback but they can feel they are criticised John: So, you mean to tell that I was given feedback but I perceived it as criticism Mr. Anger: May be, tell me who are the people who criticised you? John: My partner, my wife and few others Mr. Anger:   How is the relationship with them? John: My partner has left the business, me and my wife are not in good terms Mr. Anger: Have they appreciated you? Mr. John: Yes, they have done it Mr. An