Expect the unexpected

Expect the unexpected

We are happy when we expect too much from others, and they meet those expectations. However, the person who fulfils our expectations may experience pressures that we are unaware of—whether it's a child who scores well or an employee who performs well. Conversely, when they do not meet our expectations, we often become disappointed, leading to conflicts.

Let’s take a moment to put ourselves in their shoes. How do we feel when others have expectations of us, and we fail to meet those expectations? We often experience feelings of displeasure and may perceive the other person as overreacting. This is precisely how a child or an employee feels when we place high demands on them.

The lesson from this reflection is that we should have expectations but must avoid putting excessive pressure on others. Additionally, we should be prepared to support them when they do not meet our expectations. Exams are merely one chapter in a student's life and do not define their entire future. Similarly, monthly performance metrics are just one aspect of an employee's career.

Therefore, while we should expect certain things from others, we should also be prepared for the unexpected. This approach can foster harmony in our relationships.

M.L. Narendra Kumar

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